According to studies you will become a combination of your three closest friends. Meaning if your closest friends spend their day in front of their television being lazy you will also become lazy.
I know this is something few of us think about and therefore we may spend most of our time with friends from our childhood. I’m first to agree on having a long friendships could be something fantastic, but you should have it with moderation. Instead of spending all your time with your friends who have settled down, spend just a few hours each week and try to find some friends that still tries to develop.
Move if you can
I encourage almost everyone I come in contact with to move away from their childhood place, to seek new opportunities and learn something new.
For about 200 years ago people grew up and shared their whole lives together with their parents at the same place. Today it’s possible to travel the whole world and still be able to speak with your parents every day.
Just by trying to manage everything by yourself you’ll se how easy it really is and as a result you will gain a fantastic confidence.
Connect through internet
It can be difficult to move for several reasons. You may still be to young, you may have two kids and a wife to support, etc. Thanks to the internet it’s now possible to come in contact and become friends with other people just like you, from your own home.
You can come in contact with exceptional people on Twitter, their blogs, Jaiku, etc. Just remember that they don’t have to be famous to be good for you.
Which people do you want?
Write down a list on five to ten things you would like to be. If you want to be optimistic, find someone who is optimistic. If you would like to be more creative, find someone who is creative. It’s easy to find the right people when you know what you want.